The anger battle

Recently, I’ve been dealing with a couple of situations that have left me feeling—well, angry. If you know me, I’m always easy-going, laidback, and optimistic; that’s the way I have chosen to live my life. But when things happen to you and you don’t fully understand why, it can cause anger to seep in.

Since I’m personally not used to walking around on a daily basis with anger in my veins, I work quickly to eradicate it from my system. I can’t be consumed by things that are out of my control. What I can control is my emotions by reminding myself of a few things: I have a great family, I’m relatively healthy (could stand to lose a couple pounds), I have a great job, and I wake up feeling fortunate to be alive. That’s what works for me when situations would otherwise leave me feeling angry or in despair.

I’m not saying that I don’t have my moments where anger will get the best of me, but when that happens, I’m quick to recover and shake it loose. Some may see this as a sign of weakness, but I disagree. Why should the short time we have on this earth to be filled with feelings of anger, day in and day out? We deserve to be happy, don’t we? We all have our own personal struggles, myself included, but what are we doing to change that? What if we slightly adjust our attitude and emotions—would that help the course of our lives?

I think so. Attitude is something that I have firmly believed in ever since my high school guidance counselor looked me square in the eye sophomore year and said, “Once you remove this veil of thinking you have to be some type of bad (you-know-what), you’ll have success, because you are smart, capable, and deserving of it.” That was one of many of my personal “light bulb” moments. I carry that memory and others like it with me sort of as a badge of honor to help pick myself up.

I hope that if you struggle with things like anger, that you can take solace in the good things that you have in your life and the people that you surround yourself with. If none of those exist, just know that you can win the battle by making small changes each day. Good luck!